WRITING ON RELATIONSHIPS

How To Dump Someone (Like An Actual Adult)

BuzzFeed, March 2015

"Let's put an end to text message breakups."

10 Tips from a 1913 Marriage Manual That Are Still Relevant Today

Lover.ly, August 2014

"We read the book expecting it to be filled with hilarious, antiquated advice...so were surprised (but delighted!) to see that Blanche's advice is remarkably progressive. While there are some tips that don't really apply to modern women (most of us have jobs and money of our own, don't have a bunch of servants, and cannot worry about always being home when our husbands -- or wives -- get home from work), here are 10 tips that are still totally relevant in 2014."

A Practical Guide To Making Friends

A Practical Wedding, July 2013

"Over the past couple years I’ve found myself frustrated by the way our culture talks about friendships. Or, more important, by the way we don’t talk about friendships. While the dominant narrative seems to involve every woman having Best Friends 4-Eva who all know each other and hang out together every weekend (thanks, 'Sex and the City!'), we tend to remove friendships from most discussions on relationships. I find it a little bizarre that we take for granted that every woman will have a best friend who will have the power to lift her up, and yet we don’t talk about making friends, keeping friends, or what to do when friendships start to hurt us. We also avoid discussing the fact that many of us just don’t have friends anymore because we’re all moving around too damn much. I, for one, would like to see more women’s magazines devote as much space to the topic of friendship as they do to romantic relationships. '101 Ways to Please Your Friends This Weekend!' 'Exactly What To Say to Blow Your Friend’s Mind Tonight!'"

A Practical Guide to Breaking Up with Friends

A Practical Wedding, July 2013

"And if talking about making friends is rare, talking about ending friendships is even rarer still. I broke up with a friend last year and it was an extremely painful experience, made worse by the fact that I didn’t know how a friend breakup worked. I didn’t even know if that was what I was supposed to call it. (De-friending is already taken…chum dumping, perhaps?)"

12 Marriage Lessons We Learned from Coach and Tami Taylor on 'Friday Night Lights'

Lover.ly, August 2014

"Anyone who says Eric and Tami Taylor of "Friday Night Lights" are not the world's best TV couple has either never seen the show, or they are lying. The Taylors experience the ups and downs that every married couple does, and their mutual respect, love, and support for each other is so inspiring."

Boomerang Boom Boom

The Life & Lessons of Rachel Wilkerson, May 2010

"As much as I love free rent, I hate the logistics of trying to have sex.

Now, being a boomerang kid isn’t the worst thing in the world. It’s annoying, yes, and your carpal tunnel will get bad because seriously, there are no truly silent vibrators, but it’s manageable.

Until you meet a boomerang boy.

When you first meet, you think that it is so great. You’re like, OK, I have this kinda shitty aspect of my life that I’m kind of self-conscious about, but at least I’ve finally met someone who gets that! We’re so on the same page here! So you bond over it and then you get into each other and then…then you stop recognizing your sex life.

It’s like high school, but with way more sexual frustration — who knew that was possible? But oh…it is. Because at the age of 25, you’re probably pretty cool telling guys what you want, and vice versa. (Thanks, text messaging!) And you probably just want it more than you did in high school. (Thanks, first guy who got me off!) So just like any girl, you’re getting texts that are like, 'I want to f*ck'…and then you’re responding…'OMG I want to f*ck you so bad. Is your mom home?'

And then it’s like, 'Ugh, seriously?? Well…how big is your backseat?'"

How to Decide to Move Across the Country for Love

The Life & Lessons of Rachel Wilkerson, October 2010

"#4. What do you expect from the move? A huge part of why I moved was because I didn’t want to be in a long-distance relationship; I wanted to be able to just DATE! It was a “speed up to slow down” sort of thing. People were acting like I was going to move down here and get wifed in a month. Umm, no. I moved down here so I could get to know Eric as he is every day, not how he is when we only see each other once a month. And honestly, it’s a little different. Not bad different, but different. But I thought it was really important to know that sooner rather than later. If every date is a date-cation, you’re not getting the whole picture. On date-cation, you will do things have sex three times in a 6-hour time frame. In a short-distance relationship? Uhh…I’ll let you know if that ever happens again."

Rule #2: No Secret Crushes

The Life & Lessons of Rachel Wilkerson, June 2010

"As much as I emote, I don’t like to have emotional conversations with guys at all. I actually used to avoid them at all costs. But I finally found the best advice for when you have a secret crush: “The way out is through the door.” (Gotta love it when Confucius helps us date!) Stop trying to come up with elaborate plans and ways to talk to him and ways to get him to notice you. Stop thinking that something will totally happen when you have to work late together five months from now. STOP IT. You’re trying to MacGyver out the window when you could just go through the door."